Anyone who has ever been overweight or even considered obese knows that we envision ourselves losing the weight and shedding this shell of a body like a butterfly would from a cocoon!
Some persons seem to think we just don’t want too. Or we’re too lazy to do it. But from my experience it’s not that I don’t want to, there’s just something holding me back.
I’ve tried many times over the years. But why was this time so different? Why have I not quit? Is it this time I’m perfect at everything I’ve tried? Am I taking some magic potion?
To answer these questions and any other questions you may have, the answer is simply no. No, I’m not taking anything special to lose weight. No, I didn’t have any surgery (not that surgery is wrong), no I am not perfect. I still struggle with what I put into my body, but I’m trying and I don’t give up every time I fall.
The only thing I did differently this time was I looked at my mental health. I noticed that there were patterns in my life that would escalate my binging and causing me to gain massive amounts of weight.
Losing weight won’t fix what’s going on in your head. Don’t look to lose weight to feel better about yourself.
I’m not a doctor or therapist. I can only tell you what worked for me.
But I knew the minute that I stopped pitying myself and let myself feel all the emotions and turmoil that I had going on in my head and my heart I knew I was free.
I had to hit rock bottom so that I could pick myself up and relearn how to love myself enough to want to live.
Besides the constant feeling of shame and thinking everyone is staring at me( sometimes they were) I knew that I was killing myself. I knew that if I didn’t change, the child that I prayed for and had five miscarriages before wouldn’t get a chance to get to know me because I would be dead.
So my advice to you would be to face your fears and your demons. Feel all the emotions that you hid from with food. Cry and scream if you must, but find your reason on why you want to live.
I mean to live, not just exist!
You are stronger than you think. You just need to try! When you fall, and you will … just don’t give up!
Acknowledge your depression or any other mental health issues you have and find a way to cope. My coping mechanism was sugar.
My addictive nature has now moved on to exercise! This is my therapy. I’m not saying it will be the same for you, but find something that makes you feel alive and use that to help you “Take Control Of Your Life”.
But if you can’t help yourself it’s okay to ask for help. Find a therapist!
Self care is not only physical it’s mental. So, find a way to mentally shed the weight and physical will follow.
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